One woman, Wanja Kavengi has the internet talking about her after her tell-all situation with her son went viral on social media.
Wanja Kavengi who is a mother of an adorable 8-year-old boy opened up about not loving his son ever since he conceived her disclosing that she was even depressed throughout the pregnancy and raising him.
What shocked netizens is her finally coming out for the first time publicly telling the entire world that she doesn’t love her son and that she’s never loved her for the longest time, throughout his entire love.
Wanja Kavengi admits that she might have treated her son rather harshly and believes that he deserves better than what she’s currently giving him to a point of saying that her mother is a great mother to her son that she will ever be.
“I have never established a connection with my son. I was depressed throughout his pregnancy; I didn’t want him. I was depressed after his birth; I didn’t want him. I was depressed while raising him; I didn’t want him.” Wanja Kavengi says in part, adding, “He felt like a bother, like a burden, like an unwanted guest in my house, a painful thorn under my sole.”
Confessing on how badly she has treated her son over the years, she opened up on how she distanced herself from him and never offering him compassion, support and warmth as a child should expect from their mother. All she did was neglecting her, something that she’s not proud of entirely.
“I wasn’t able to love him like a parent would a child. I created an emotional distance between us and never offered him compassion and warmth. I shouted at him all the time. I refused to understand him. I was cold. I neglected him and never prioritized him.” she added.
Wanja, further opening up about her son, “he was an afterthought, a “by the way”. I didn’t play with him, I didn’t laugh with him, I didn’t eat with him, I didn’t watch or listen to anything with him, I wouldn’t go anywhere with him, I didn’t spend time with him. I didn’t empathize with him.”
She went on adding:
“I was a stone-faced bxtch to him who always told him no. I didn’t want him. I couldn’t stand him.
I didn’t fulfill his obligations on time and it would take me a little too long to notice he needed a haircut, a little too long to realize he needed new clothes, a little too long for me to see his shoes were worn out, a little too long to buy him a toy. I took a little too long to pay attention to him. ”
Admitting bluntly that she doesn’t love her son, Wanja Kavengi says she is sick and tired of hurting him each and every other time she gets an opportunity to do just that despite being 8 years since he was brought forth to this world by her.
This is the rest of what Wanja Kavengi had to say about not being kind to her son and treating him as a stranger while treating other people, including strangers with kind.
Apparently, even her son doesn’t call her mother/mom, he just calls her by her first name, Wanja and she’s cool with it.
Wanja Kavengi continued saying:
“I ignored him from the day he was born. I have been unkind to him, treated everyone else kindly, and been mean to him. I have kept a great distance from him. He doesn’t even call me “mum” anymore.
He calls me Wanja like everyone else. Because instead of treating him like my child, I’ve treated him like everyone else.
It is not once that curious people have enquired if he is my pesky little brother because we don’t have a mother-child bond.
Anyone can see he is an angry eight-year-old. He has a deep-seated anger in him, a perfect reflection of the anger I have had for him, anger that I felt for myself. I refuse to face my own anger and unleash it onto him.
I blame him for my own insecurities. I blame him for my own mistakes. I punish him for how my life has turned out. I have solely made him an anxious, cantankerous child.
“How long does postpartum depression last?” I Googled the other day, because try hard as I may, my feelings for him haven’t changed.
It has lasted too long. I still don’t know how to care for him. My mother is a better mother to him.
In fact, she is the best and only mother he has had in these few months we’ve been under her roof than all the 8 years I’ve been with him.
I don’t love my son. And I am tired of hurting him.”
Wanja Kavengi opening up like this has sparked mixed reactions from netizens across all divides with some saying that her son deserves better being with some other person raising him rather than his mother while other people want her to change and be better for her son despite all the hardships she has caused him to undergo through.
Currently, netizens are talking about her everywhere, some people are shocked by her public confession of not loving her son and treating him badly for the past 8 years.
