The trickiest part of dating is that you have to go on a first date prior to any future ones.
There are so many rules you have to be aware of leading up to a first date, with the foremost being: there are no rules. If the rule is that there are no rules, but then you’re told an abundance of first date information, how does that work?
Should we ignore dating coaches, love gurus, friends, and family and trust our own instincts? Or have our own instincts led us to the dating coaches, love gurus, friends, and family who are looking out for our best interest? Either way, it’s impossible to ignore the thoughts flooding your mind when you’re about to set up and then actually go on that first date.
You’ll be fine to go! As long as you don’t make the mistake of picking the wrong conversational topics.
Talking about the wrong things on a first date could mean your first date will be your last. Don’t let that happen to you. Here are 3 topics that you should avoid at all cost during first date.
- Your Ex
Different people have different views and feelings towards their exes. Chances are that at least one of you is still a bit bruised from a previous relationship. Most likely, both of you are. But you’re both on this date to forget about those from your past and to move on with your lives. You want to find new love, so why bring up old love?
- Flaws
No one is perfect. We’ve all made mistakes, made bad decisions, and did things that we can’t undo. There is no reason to go ahead and highlight all the reasons someone might NOT like you right away.
It’s funny, but people seem to enjoy telling those they’re interested in why they shouldn’t be interested in them. It’s like we’re the worst car salesmen in the world, running around telling potential buyers all the reasons the car is a lemon.
- Negativity
No one wants to date a negative person. Not even negative people want to date other negative people! Interestingly, even the most negative of individuals are looking for reasons to be hopeful. One hope they do have is finding someone positive enough to help them see the good in the world. The hopeless want hopefulness to rub off on them.
You should, of course, talk about the things you find most important in this world. But just be mindful that sad stories, especially on a first date, are a bit of a buzzkill. It’s a downer. It’s wiser to leave such topics for a later date.
The first date is all about making the right impression. And the right impression should focus around positivity, good vibes, and hope for a better, happier future. Hopefully together.
