Former US first lady, Michelle Obama has shared deep things and challenges in her marriage to Barack Obama. Michelle also delves in to the importance of commitment to sticking together when times are difficult and why making the decision to change for the better and resolve differences will save your marriage.
Michelle Obama in a narration, reveals how their marriage has been over the years, pointing out the challenges and wins they’ve had as a power-couple.
“Over the years, a lot of young people have asked me about marriage. And my response usually goes something like this: You have to prepare yourself for long stretches of discord and discomfort. You have to learn how to make real compromises in the way you’ve lived as an individual. Glamorizing a relationship while you’re dating will lead you straight to difficulty once you’re married. You can’t paper over problems when you’re living with someone day in and day out.”
Michelle Obama still gushes over her husband Barack Obama. He is the pillar of their home, a man of means, leader and a loving friend. “As an adult, I’ve lived in a number of places, but as far as I’m concerned, I’ve only ever had one real home. My home is my family. My home is Barack.” she says.
Challenges in Michelle Obama’s marriage
Yes! They also face challenges. This is not an abnormality at all. Michelle says, “But here’s the thing—our marriage has never been perfectly 50-50. One of us is always needing more or giving more. We have to be willing to listen to each other, honestly and without defensiveness. Only then, can we evolve together.”
Is marriage really worth it?
Well, it depends on how you look at it and approach issues in a respective and transparent way. Before jumping into it, Michelle Obama advises that you need to cross examine yourself.
According to a KNBS research done recently, a majority of Kenyan men and women choose not to get married and instead choose to remain single until they are old.
“So you’ve got to ask yourself: What are you trying to get out of this relationship? Have you truly thought it through? Do you want a wedding or do you want a lifelong partnership? Those are two very different things. Together, you are answering the question: Who are we and who do we want to be?” Michelle Obama advises.
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