Ms. Purity Naserian knows too well how being a young, unemployed and good looking female can be challenging in the pursuit of a job.
Sex predators are all over the place in suits, in big offices, with a lovely smile and powerful position, they are everywhere!
“Can’t a woman succeed in this country without warming a man’s bed?… I mean a woman cannot get a job…without going to bed with the person … Men what’s wrong with you? Can’t you just help a woman and be genuinely happy when she’s succeeding without you asking for sexual favors? I have experienced this like with 10 men.” She wrote.
Her story resonates thousands of other youth in the country and unemployment is top on the list of challenges that all Kenyan youth experience and government figure puts it at about 40% of Kenyans don’t have a place where they can earn their daily bread.
With the competitive job markets where you must know someone, it is difficult for a tarmacking young Kenyan to secure an employment opportunity; it’s even worse in a highly chauvinistic society being a female make it twice as hard as the male counterparts.
“The courage I have gained to come out and explain my pain and almost suicidal situation is satisfying enough than tarnishing a name of person(s) who is abusing his position. Naserian explained.
Narrating her ordeal Purity shared in a long elaborate email how her encounter with sex predators in her pursuit for a source of income has literally broken her heart.
“I feel the world is so cruel and some human beings have become so insensitive and inhumane…why? Why? Why?” she continued.
I am fed up with depression and tired of asking myself if all I look is “sex object” in the eyes of a man. A man who is old enough to be my dad. I am so tired.” Ms Naserian lamented.
“I am left wondering if I am choosing failure over a job/assistance I cannot get because I failed to reach to your sexual demands.”
A passionate political writer Purity narrated how each time she approached a newspaper editor for an employment opportunity; the story was the same script -the cookie in exchange for the job.
After two years of tarmacking Ms. Naserian lamented in her email “not that I don’t get a job no I get a job after a job because I am a go-getter so I go for what I feel I can deliver to perfection. To my disappointment, I am told yes purity you’ll get the job and I’ll be paying for example 80000 instead of 30000 if you have sex with me.”
“Is somebody feeling my pain, please? I have even developed a phobia for approaching men for assistance.”
“It even pains more when some go ahead and mock you afterward saying you’re choosing failure upon yourself and you got no one to blame for your woes.” Naserian wrote.
“For the past 6 months I choose to bury myself in my own depression pains and struggles but I came to realize that will not be the determinant in my destiny that’s why I came up with all this! That’s why I have decided to speak up and get assistance from the right channels if I may put it.” She wrote.
“Why make me a victim of my situation out of your inhumane self?”
She goes ahead to ask the predators a very emotional and personal question “If it were you yes you who is asking to bed a woman if it were your daughter wife or cousin mother how will you feel?”
And to prove that in case anyone comes out to tarnish her story she goes ahead to say this “I wish I would attached screenshots to support all this.”
“One can even contemplate suicide I know there are women who feel my pain I know there are women who have been in my shoes it’s a depressing situation.”
And her message to men- “Men what’s wrong with some of you in power? ARE DRUNK IN POWER? Don’t you have a heart?”
