Gospel singer Ruth Matete narrated how she has lost so many people who were close to her including her late Nigerian husband John Apewajoye.
In a post on social media, Matete shared details of how her mother, father and herself lost their spouses under strange circumstances.
She recounted how her late mother’s troubled marriage to an abusive man lead to her death. She also narrated how her dad lost his wife and how she also lost her husband.
My mother died when I was 8 years old. My step father beat her so badly and she was taken to the hospital because of the injuries.
I was still living with her and my step father.
So when she realized that she may not make it out alive, she called my father and asked him to come get me
I was still very young. So my father just used to come and visit me in the village. Since my mother was still alive, it was better to be with her.
My dad came and took me with him to the city. This is where I have been since then
My mother later died a few months after I came to Nairobi.
My father was married to another woman here in Nairobi who also later died. (My parents got me out of wedlock and they both got married to different people)
My step father died last year.
My daughter’s father died two years ago.
While in the ambulance after the accident, he told me he wasn’t gonna make it. I thought it was just fear. So I kept encouraging him that he would be fine
He told me all he wanted me to do (I felt like it was those Afro cinema movies). He gave me the name of the baby regardless of the gender. Toluwa is a unisex name. Gave me a message for his sister and brother as well
God gave him two weeks. In those two weeks, each time I went to visit him, he would ask me “Oh! Am still here? “
It’s like he waited for death. I felt like he didn’t fight to live. But anyway, I will never know fully
I don’t know why I am writing all these to be honest. But maybe am just thinking about my life. My daughter’s life. My family pattern when it comes to death. I don’t know.
My father losing my mother. My father losing his wife
Me losing my husband.
Just a pattern of people losing their spouses 😢
