Bringing home a new boyfriend to meet mom and dad is a tough first step.
For one, you don’t want to frighten him off with your family’s antics, and two, as their child, you know your parents are always going to put whoever you bring home through the wringer. Before you get to the introductions, you should prepare your parents, in a sense, to meet your boyfriend. Drop hints that you have a boyfriend in the first place, or slip him into conversations. Hiding your boyfriend’s existence could work against you.
Some folks aren’t as close with their parents, but if you do have a chance to mention your boyfriend, take it. If, for example, you’re talking to your mom about your weekend plans, say, “I’m going camping this weekend, I may bring my boyfriend along,” instead of, “I’m going camping.”
If you know it’s time to introduce your family to your boyfriend — or you know there is no avoiding it any longer — you should also keep in mind it’s best to do the introducing when you control the situation. Therefore, you’re going to have a lot more control and say in the situations if you introduce your boyfriend to your family on your grounds , meaning your home, instead of theirs.
They are already going to feel different being in your home instead of theirs. Take advantage of this change and bring your boyfriend to your house to meet them (But for heaven’s sake, don’t bring him out of the
bedroom!).
If you’d like to have the meeting in a more neutral setting, meet up at a park or restaurant.
Finally, whatever you do, don’t introduce your boyfriend as your friend. When you say friend, it makes it look like the two of you are just fooling around, and your parents — and boyfriend — won’t like that. Clearly use boyfriend-type terminology to let them know he is going to be around for awhile, and it will lower their natural instinct to scare him off.
Disclaimer
Then again, you don’t need to introduce him to your folks if you don’t want to, don’t get forced to do something that you’re not ready to do. If he can’t respect your decision, tell him to beat it! like Michael Jackson
