Losing a job is one of the hardest encounters someone can get exposed to, bearing in mind the ordeal one has to face in paying the bills and adjusting to current jaws of jobless world.
Isn’t it crazy how life works? You’re 100 percent happy with your life and then it knocks you down.
The pain and disappointment someone goes through after losing a job is something I would never wish upon anyone. Right before that very second, I thought I had it all together.
In my mind, there’s no better feeling than having a stable income. When that gets taken away, life suddenly becomes scarier than the clown from “It.” It’s like having someone steal all of your comfort and sense of maturity.
It’s so easy to sulk in sadness after losing something you were so used to. A full-time job is like having a significant other: You spend all of your time there and put so much effort in to it.
And then, just like that, it’s gone and you’re left broken hearted. You’re afraid because you don’t have a plan to get back on your feet. I mean, where do we go from here?
There are two choices you can make after being let go. You can either lie around and worry you’ll never be able to get another job again, or you can keep on moving.
Well, Choices have consequences. The choices people take after losing a job have huge impact on how to cope with the ordeal. We, as humans make mistakes left and right and just when it seems like we think we know better, we sometimes don’t.
Making a wrong move after your job is over has serous immediate or future consequences. Talking of Consequences, Author Jack Welch, in the novel “10-10-10”, describes how she came up with 10-10-10, a way to make better decisions while focusing on the Future consequences.
The way 10-10-10 works is, when faced with a dilemma ( On this context losing a job), one must think about the consequences and how they will affect them in the next 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years. Obviously, it does not have to be with the number 10 exactly, it can be 15 minutes, 2 months, or even in the next 47 seconds
To overcome the consequences, here are 10 mistakes you should run way from next time you find yourself shown the exit door of your job;
- Applying For A New Job Immediately
The pain of losing a job is an akin to the pain of losing a loved one in a relationship or through death. You need time to heal. In Both cases, Wounds cases involved. Serious wounds. Painful wounds. I’m not going to sit here and tell you that “time heals all wounds”. Sure, time heals many wounds. Most wounds even, but not all of them. Some stand the test of time better than any of the remaining wonders of the world. Such wounds ruins your psychological state. Jobs are about productivity which is in turn parallel to being on right psychological state.
- Mistaking “Living For “Bad Behavior”
After years and years of being in job, you are shown an exit gate by the boss. You need to see the world in a different dimension, and get involved with activities. But now is not the time to lose your moral compass. It is not the time to do something that you will end up regretting. Don’t let your friends (or your inner voice) take you into doing something foolish, like getting into drugs
- Losing People
Don’t court loneliness; instead, reach out to people. If no one is reaching out to you — half the world doesn’t reach out to anyone. Don’t lose people who are close to you as a result of losing a job. The pain of losing a job can be excruciating. But, losing the people who are close to you is only going to add to the pain. People are the only ones you can really trust at times like this and the only ones who genuinely care more about you
- Getting into Financial Trouble
We, humans, have an element of proving each other wrong. Trying to prove you can still “Live Large” to your peers might crop in your mind. Running out and buying new clothes, cars, and houses to prove a point to anyone will also get you into financial trouble. Your job is over. You need to cut the cost down. I don’t mean you live below the standards but you can’t take Whiskey every day or buy a new suit as you been doing for the last 97 years you have been working.
- Trying To avoid the Pain
Lock yourself in a room, Cry out a river. An Ocean if possible. Author and speaker Zara Green said it best: “Growth happens during the storms of life.” Give yourself the opportunity to process the pain and move through this stage in life. There’s growth on the other side of every pain
- Not Forgiving Yourself
You might have screwed up, which resulted to your boss sacking you. It’s necessary to forgive yourself for transgressions. Acknowledge your mistakes, learn from them and then move one.
- Not Talking About
When you’ve experienced something pretty shocking, like losing a job, it’s good to retell the story to someone, just so you can make sense of it yourself. Not talking about it will prolong the period you are supposed to take to get over it. Choose someone who is close to you and vent it to them. Everyone needs someone they can vent to, whether it’s a flatmate, relative, or cat. Vent away.
- Wallowing
There’s a thick line between resting in bed and wallowing for days and days. You can wallow for a while, of course – listen to music, watch Ghostbusters Movie, read books, allow yourself to eat chocolate for dinner – but give yourself a time limit: Don’t let the days of wallowing stretch out for so long you haven’t showered in weeks
- Giving Up
Losing a job can be messy. But never give up. Giving up will be an act of cowardice. You will need to make application for a new job in near future. Many applications perhaps. Don’t let your previous job encounter discourage in facing new job related challenges.
- Pushing you boss to re-hire you
I’m sorry to hear you’ve been sacked. No, really, strangely, I actually am. You can try to make a move to end your feud with your boss to re-hire you – He the devil you know so well. Don’t move out of the limits to push him/her to re-hire you. You’ll never take advantage of the wonderful opportunities that are awaiting you, if you keep going back to the same old thing
